Let's talk about maternal instincts, loveys! I seem to have stronger maternal instincts than a lot of people I know, an urge to mother everything in sight. But maybe ya'll do that too, and just differently? Anyway, I personallly get the worst right after my period, a sort of whiny I want some babies right now, damnit! kind of feeling. Ickyness bleaugh. I can see why people get pregnant a lot....it's those darned harmones mixed with maternal instincts! a pointless little ramble by Robyn I don't have many maternal instincts. Frankly, having children scares the hell out of me. When my mother had me it basically ruined her life. She was going to college (at age 36), and had a good career ahead of her, and she was finally getting back up on her feet after years of sorrow and abuse. And then she went and had kids, and dropped out of school, quit her job, and became a housewife. More's the pity; she would have made a brilliant scientist. Maybe if she'd been different, I would be too. I certainly don't dislike children, nor do I scorn anyone else's right to be a mother, but I don't want to be one. Example is everything. - Naela's perhaps controversial opinion This is a little thing to be added to Dawn's thingy below... I know!! I was really surprised at myself the other day (ok... a few months ago). I was babysitting my cousins, then 2 and 3 months... the 3 month old was only comfortable in the snuggli, and one hand had to hold the pacifier in her mouth, because she still wasn't used to keeping things in her mouth. Meanwhile, the 2 year old needs her diaper changed, and I managed to get her out of her old diaper, into her new one, and into her pajamas and ready for bed... with one hand. The funny thing is, it wasn't that hard- I did what I had to do, and my body adjusted and made room to accomodate the needs of Ellie and Katie... wow, bodies are amazing... you always take them for granted... -JessicaSkater I've totally been feeling maternal lately, as i babysit a 9 month year old boy down the street. Its amazing how fast your body adapts to having a baby around, how handy hips are for balacing little ones, if it takes two hands to hold him i start using my feet to pick up things (really), the whole thing reminds me of running around the plains of Africa and few thoughsand years ago. It has also made me realize how much WORK having a kid is, and my heavens im not ready for that sort of thing any time soon.
peace- Dawn PS, how on earth do men survive without wide hip bones? Im about to go hiking for 5 days, a task which will be much easier since most of my packs weight will go right into my hips. And you can carry boxes easier... its just so cool. How timely. Deep last night I dreamed I had a baby, I think a result of playing with a really little kitten for quite a while yesterday. Somehow, when it came time to give birth, there were two of me, one pregnant and one not, and "I" decided to leave the room. I just came back when the baby was out, and nursed. I wonder, if I were to be pregnant right now, and for some reason decided I was going to keep it, what would that be like? Would I still go to Australia for a few months, while pregnant? I mean, people do that sort of thing... Somehow half-awake after the dream, I could see enough nice, interesting things about that possibility to actually think about it for a while. Normally I just think "agh! that'd be horrible!!" (ever noticed the way a lot of people pay more attention to the baby than the mother, and she has to stand there listening to it? ugh, and all that baby-focused small talk...bleh, that'd be worse than the labor!) I think at our age it's quite important to be engaged in life, and perhaps focused on some goals, to interrupt that maternal instinct for a while. I think a lot of people in their late teens and early twenties get pregnant because on some level, consious or not, they aren't really sure what to do with their lives, what the "point" is...Reanna I have plenty of maternal instincts, and I mostly act it out on my family. I have all sorts of anxiety dreams about having children. Once I had this dream where I had a baby, and I would not let anyone touch the infant, and then I somehow lost the baby in the snow. I was having a heart attack. I know I definitly would like to have children, I just need to find the partner who would work well and have similar views on raising children. Though sometimes I worry, if I should ever become pregnant before finding a permanent partner....My mother told me, she would be tickled pink if I had a child, and she would love to help take care of the child, while I worked. It isn't like I am going to go out and get pregnant for the hell of it, but it is a reassuring feeling to know that I would have a lot of family support. I am curious Reanna, what if for these people...who have children rather young in life, are truly sure of what they are doing. I am not saying all are, and most are probably not, but maybe a few have found what they want to do. Most just end up having kids, because they were not too careful, and they decided to keep the children, because...they just may like children. Sure a lot do not know what they are getting into, and many face rather grim prospects.....anyways...I am off the subject. Back to maternal instincts. For some who first meet me I may not come across as the most maternal figure, but for someone I care about (even in the slightest)...I tend to mother them a bit. I also take care of everyone, and remind them to eat fruit, stop staying up so late, I cook people comfort foods and listen to them...I like that, and I really look forward to that phase of my life. -Gennie
I want to have kids someday, but not for awhile. I think adopting kids would be really...hmm. Fun and nice may not be the right words. Neat? I dunno. Right now I just couldn't do it. I don't have the patience. And some little kids who are just being naturally wonderfully curious/energetic/exploring drive me up the wall, and I don't know why...maybe I'll just adopt the older kids that have a hard time finding families. I might get along with them better (I should save this ramble. It'd be funny to see how my attitudes change in five or ten years). - Emma Heh. Shippy should see this page!! :) I have weird mixed up maternal instincts. They seem to come out towards specific people, rather than as a desire to birth a child. I don't know that I've ever really WANTED to be pregnant or have a child. Thought about adoption, and could never figure out why more people didn't do it when they want kids. But anyway. I feel maternally towards younger friends, animals, even older friends or family occasionally. But it happens most often with friends of mine who are a few years younger than me, usually late at night when they are asleep or falling asleep. I just get a tremendous, almost physical, desire to hold them, feed them, make sure they're okay always, and generally take good care of them. It's a strange sensation, and one I can't always hold back... i've certianly been noted for various maternal actions I make towards my friends. (~summer) I really don't care for little kids that much, and after a day or two with the same ones, I start to compleatly hate them. But I seem to have strange, child drawing powers. If I'm at a park with a group of people, my friends will wander off into the woods and I'll stay in the playground helping someone down the slide. And there was the time I was in this family show (littraly, there were kids as young as three, in the cast) but I didn't do to much in the show, because I spent alot of the time with a child atached to every limb. Sometimes I wonder if this is a sign that I'm gona be a mother when I grow-up, like-it-or-not.Heck, I even end-up playing mother to my older sister or (and this is really scary)even my perents sometimes. i really deal better with animals than really small children. in a play i'm in i get to hold a chicken, and it's calmer with me than anyone else. babies... you have to burp them, feed them, rock them, play with them, diaper them, put up with all the 'and how's the little one doing?' comments... i think i prefer animals to babies. but once they get to around 3-7, they're REALLY fun. i play acting games with the kids i babysit, and they're better at it than most people in my acting class. i never really feel maternal towards them though. they're just small playmates. the person i feel most maternal towards is my boyfriend. i always worry about what he eats, and i fix his hair, stuff like this. is this a freudan complex?? -marina I love little kids. My whole life I have been a lot more comfortable around kids than people my age. I guess I don't feel like I have to impress them like I do older people. They don't care! And they seem to like me. When I go to the public pool, within an hour there's a swarm swimming around and splashing me. I think I just try so hard to treat them like actual humans(you know how some kids-especially precocious ones- hate it when grown-ups stumble around and say,"oh you're soooo cute!" and talk "down" to them) and be friends.Though sometimes it's hard for me to prevent myself from just grabbing up a little kid and hugging her. Cause I'm TOUCHYFEELY anyway and they are cute! Erin NBTSWikiWiki | Recent Changes Edited 24 times, last edited on September 23, 2000 by 199.185.3.102. © 2000 NBTSC Webmasters |
