Define In Love

wow this makes me look obsessed with defining stuff, doesn't it? heh. oh well. i wanna know how everybody feels about "in love". what consistutes in love? is in love being happily together for 15 years? is in love feeling more than a crush/obsession but not knowing what to call it? is in love just enjoying the company of the person enough that you want to make them happy and spend more time with them?

xo ~jennyrose

True love I would define as that place after immediate infatuation, and also after that phase where the other person's little quirks and eccentricities drives you up the wall. I think you know you're there when you think first of what you can do for them, and not of what they can do for you. In the words of Tim Allen,

 "A guy knows he's in love when he wants to grow old with a woman. When he
wants to stay with her in the morning. When he starts calling sex 'making
love' and afterward wants a great big hug. When he loses interest in the car
for a couple days. It's that simple, I swear."

-Samantha

I wish I knew. :) I think I'll write something later.

 Love is the coat rack i hang up my fears,
     but yet still swim in the fear of the fear.
 Love is the place i can finaly stop running,
         but yet i still do.
 Love is my best friend,
       but yet i hate it at times.
 Love can burn you more then matches,
      but it can make you float like a boat.
 It can make you high,
       it can make you low.
 Love can starve you like not eating,
    
 But it make you full to the top. 
 Love is love
        and i love it for that reason alone.

If I found a soulmate who I loved unconditionally, and who loved me back unconditionally. If we stood by each other and worked through our differences even in very hard times, if we supported each other's dreams and traveled together, if we had our own lives but included each other in them... "half the battle of life is just showing up". If they showed up consistantly and quietly made it known that they weren't going to leave, and if I did the same thing, and we did this for years and years until we were 100 and then we died together in satisfaction that we had led a good life together....

I believe that actions are truth. Oh yes, people can say they're in love, and believe it, but if they do not act on their word... what good is it? I believe that love is hard and tedious work a lot of the time. It requires patience and balance, both very hard to achieve in life. It requires courage to get past your mistakes, learn from them and be patient with your partner's mistakes as if they were your own.

If I found someone who would do that for me, and if I was willing to do that for them, I think I would have found true love. Perhaps I already have, in many ways.

~Eire

Being in love is realizing someone isn't perfect and loving them even more for it and letting them know you aren't perfect either. It's accepting every part of them, not trying to change them for what is "better" in your mind. It's being there for them whenever anything happens and trusting inside yourself that they will be there for you as well. Its waking up and wishing they were in bed with you just so you could look at how peaceful they are when they're sleeping. Its wanting to just lay in each other's arms, not thinking about anything sexual, just feeling absolutely peaceful and content. Its loving them so much that you will do whatever makes them happiest, even if that means letting them go. It's knowing them inside and out, predicting what they're going to say and do before they say it and often being right but are still surprised with their spontaniety too. Its seeing a picture of them and having a leap in your heart that is far different from a simple crush or attractionit's seeing them in that picture and suddenly missing them with every part of you and wantingno, needing to be near them again. Its not having to speak every day but to know that they're thinking of you and you're thinking of them. It's an understanding. Its being able to sit together and not have to say anything at all. Being in love is something that nobody really can define. Its when every time you hear a love song, you think of them. Its when you understand them better than they do, when you know their friends, when you're friends with their parents, when you close your eyes and picture any detail of that person. Being in love is sometimes feeling consumed by them or the longing for them. Its the ability to not have to say "i love you" all the timeyou just know its true. Its when the little things don't matter anymore and you fall in love with each of the little things, even the ones you don't actually like. Its seeing a sunset and having your first thought be wanting to see it with them instead. Its being able to state your opinions and not be afraid that they'll disagree and hold it against you. Its being able to give every part of yourself to someone else and not expect anything back even though you know you will get something back. It's believing they are the most imperfect god/goddess that you've ever met and you never want to have to live without them in your life. Its the fear of losing them thats deep down inside you, that if you didn't have them anymore, you wouldn't be able to wake up in the morning. Its knowing their number by heart and calling just to say goodnight. Its loving them at their worst times too, not just the most glamerous. Its holding them when they're crying over someone else. its being able to talk about anything with them without any awkwardness. Its something that isn't asked for, it just comes and then you're in love and you look in the mirror one morning and you go holy shit, I'm in love! And then you can't do anything about it. You know its impossible to forget them. You know it will hurt like hell to try to get over them. Or you call them up and you talk to them one more time and realize they're in love with you too and then its like a light is turned around and it feels like life is worth living. Its believing that the best days of your life are the ones when you're holding them and hoping that they feel the same way too. Its getting shivers down your spine when you see them again after only a month apart. Being in love is the thing that can inflict every bit of pleasure or pain there is.

• Dear God, who wrote that?! Please reveal yourself! -Samantha

Okay okay okay, it's me. ~Jasmine

• i knew it. -moth
• Thanks, Jasmine. That's almost scary, how familiar that sounds. I keep forgetting how friggen good you are with words.
• DAMN Jaz! beautiful -knuteboy

Yes. Please tell us who wrote this??? Even though, we really don't need to know, but we all want to know! And I just want to say that, who every wrote this has a really awesome view of being in love! And I think it's totally great that you wrote this. I think that each person has a different view on being in love. And you don't really know it until someone else points it out. Then you think about it & you go "Oh my god I am in love"....it's a funny thing. And it's a beatuifull thing at that. Love is love, from the heart, unconditionally. Being in love is a feeling. A energy, a frequency. It's there & everyone can see it & feel it. It's an amazing thing. Being in love is always knowing that you have someone there for you. Knowing that you don't need to do anything. You have it. You have what you want. Knowing that, honesty is the highest form of love!!!! The less you need from someone the more you can love them!!!! You can only receive love in the way that give yours!!!!!! Always remember that!

~Selena

Love is something you fall into I guess, when you least expect it, then you're just there. You can fall into jello with similar but more temporary effects. In love doesn't have to be with a person, or a person who feels the same, just like jello doesn't have to have whip cream and that creamyjelloy stuff in layers, but it's better that way. People tend to fall in and out of it in rapid succession, which is why it should always be treated seriously, with unstudied triviality. Like Oscar old chap. there you have it...me very unromantic view of love

Okay now, who's that? And would people please sign their names?

• Who said that?
• hahahaha! -anonymous
• Okay, it's me, Samantha. Now 'fess up!
• oh, that was me. just Kimberly green. A long time ago, and I just came back here. I hella LOVE this page! Even if love isn't true...if we can only imagine it and try to mimic our imaginings, at least we can...