is there someone that you think would be perfect for you? have you met him/her? Describe him/her here: My ideal partner would appreciate my silliness but still tell me to settle down when I am trying too hard. He (I think he's a he) would get the urge to run down the street in the middle of the night dressed like Rambo and sticking rainbow flags in all the neighbors lawns, at the same moment I do. And he knows about music and about balance. :) My ideal partner would be male. He would prefferibly be an unschooler, or have an unschooler outlook on the world. He has to have style, and be cery confident but not arrogant. This is sorta superficial, but he has to have a nice body. He doesn't have to be a Calvin klein underwear model (not that they are all that bad...), but he needs to be in good shape. Muscles are a total turn on. I am very body-concious and I would like him to respect his body as well as mine. He would be fun, loving, incredibly playful, and horny as hell is great for me =) Some perks and total turn-ons are: dancers (I am one, so we could relate. or at least if he can't dance, he is willing ot make an ass of himself trying), bathing is always a plus, I like long-ish hair- shaggy is good skip the gel, have a somewhat healthy lifestyle or at least be earth-friendly, dances in the rain, and as long as he is willing to flirt like hell and play strip poker, then we are all good to go. tee hee-Abbi My ideal partner would fufil my every need. To control, to not have to make any decisions, to be loved, to love, to laugh, to argue, to get incredibly mad, to bitch, to be silly, to be serious, to sleep, to stay up all night, to sing, to be silent. And he'd be exactly like me, except just different enough to be interesting. But in a good way. And he'd look damn sexy playing music. *grin* This is, of course, totally ignoring that I'm not even looking for anyone like this. My ideal partner, realistically, would... well... would have a good sense of humor. Would boost me up. Would get a boost from me. Would love me completely. Would be loved by me completely. Something like that. I had a dream once about a boy with fuzzy hair that was part blue, part blond. He had a name like Tchad (but it wasn't that...), and a ring in his nose...a dancer, taller than me. When he smiled, his eyes looked like they had little gnomes dancing inside. We took a bus somewhere together...and I seem to remember him giving me some very good advice.... I wonder if perhaps that was my "perfect guy" right there. I like dreams. < grin > ~Maggie Hairy women at best! Ones that don't give a shit about grooming, and they have to have big teeth that are VERY crooked and brown. One of my favourit traits about a girl is when they are VERY male like. Specialy when they don't wash! now that's a turn on! and always remember natural smell is the best smell so don't put on anything thats make you smell good, make sure it nice a "natural" (heheeehehheeheh) -NickV I am attracted to people whose eyes smile and crinkle with mirth.
On a slightly more realistic level... My criteria: non-homophobic, not too religious, pro-choice, non-abusive (physically, emotionally and psychologially, obviously) Preferences: Easy to talk to, plays with my hair, doesn't insult my quirky (or boring) dressing habits, enjoys my sense of humor and vice versa, giggles a lot, isn't intimidating, doesn't always let me win the argument, cooks (well), watches infomercials for entertainment, doesn't try to demean or belittle my political and/or religious views, loves children as much as me, likes the people I associate myself with, good at cuddling, moderately attractive (is that shallow? Oh who cares, at least it's the last thing on the list.)
12/18/01 hot damn did i do well... -ali This is a basic list of IdealPartner traits that I made back in July when I was traveling, but I didn't have enough internet acces to post it then. The really cool thing is that I've fallen hard since than, and it's like this list was made just for them! An ideal partners for me . . .
I don't have an idea of exactly who my ideal partner should be because it could become very limiting and then un-useful. And silly. Like, I could say that my ideal partner likes to fix old motorcycles, but doesn't drive like a moron, speaks fluent Spanish, plays Bach on the cello, violin and piano[1], likes to dress up and go swing dancing ev'ry satty-day night and has the brownest eyes you evah did see, with sun colored flecks, too...Fun though, but if I do it that way there are so many different people-scenarios that I would consider ideal...And would they be? They all would, so they wouldn't be...So..So... There are some traits that I look for in people and am attracted to. I figured out, like, about a half hour ago, that a combination of those traits are also completely neccessary for someone to be a good partner for me. I am attracted to people who are wholesome, intelligent[2], kind and passionate. I am attracted to people who want to know you, and you to know them. As much as possible. It never ends, that knowing better and finding out...A sharing kind of communication. Then there's chemistry and so on.[2.35] I also recently discovered what I am not attracted to! I am not attracted to people who are happy being not happy, who don't give a feck about anything, who are unkind, unthoughtful, humorless, materialistic. And big egos. I dislike big-ass egos. And narcissm. Bleah. I like being alive (or prefer feeling this way[2.5]) and want to be with someone else who also loves being here. (pause to consider earth orbiting sun, sun lost amid other suns in an arm of one out of an uncountable amount of galaxies, that teeny arm orbiting the center of that reeeally small[3] galaxy.) So, that's about all...Peace, hot tea, good poetry, and glorious dissent[4][5]. [1] Only two part inventions on the piano. And we'd live in an old farmhouse with five blue gray cats. And we'd have lots of money so we could do nothing and everything, and there would be old cedar trees around this house. And the moon would always be full. [2]Intelligence to me is not so much an I.Q. test score, but a wanting to know and willing to find out and wanting to remember and make useful frame of mind. [2.35] But that just happens, or it doesn't. Quite simple. [2.5] Things can also get very sucky, and it seems gross...to be happy all the time, to refuse to be mad or sad, to yourself and people close to you. [3] And also very large.[6] [4] As in, there is a lot of work and protesting to be done. [5] And footnotes. Many footnotes. [6] But is that the point? This isn't the easiest question, especially for a Gemini, but here goes anyway, eh? I'm gonna list my guy qualities here, just cuz I'm in a boysy mood. I want someone who wants me for me, not for my supposed 'looks'. I want someone who adores my cutesyness/sillyness and who is pretty silly himself. I want someone who plays guitar and who would write a song for me. I want someone who is never ever ever boring and who I could talk to for hours. I want someone who likes to dress up as a candy raver ( tho it doesn't have to be a full-time thing ) and has fun at raves and other such social events. I want someone who does mushy romantic things after fights, like stops me from getting on a plane/bus/whatever. I want someone who isn't jealous or clingy, and doesn't mind that I like traveling, who wants to come along, even. I want someone who isn't afraid to say 'I love you'. Someone who approves of my logic ( if it's going to make you happy, do what you want when you want, and never pass up the chance for a grand adventure. avoid having a plan. ) Someone who has a nice body, with cute abs and a nice sexy smooth chest. Light eyes are a big big plus, blue or grey especially. Doesn't believe in abusing women, but does love wrestling around and being playful. Deep growly voices are intensely sexxy. So are Irish accents...anyway. Should be affectionate, like when I'm just standing about talking to people he comes up and puts his arms around me, little pecks here and there, that sort of thing. Honesty is really important! Don't make up stuff just to impress me or something *coughpaulcough*. MUST HAVE SENSE OF HUMOR, wry with the occasional wisecrack is good. Enjoys sensual stuff, is someone who can turn me on ( which actually isn't that easy ) and HAS to be a good kisser. I'm not budging on that one. Doesn't believe in gossip/guy talk ( "hey, I just went to third base with my bitch, yo" ). Enjoys the same stuff I do. Respects me. Loves my family. Has generally the same religious beliefs as I do, or is at least really openminded. Always supportive and understanding. Financially stable. No drug addictions...I'm trying to get out of that lifestyle, not fall back in. Kickboxer/martial arts kind of guy. Fundamentalist Christian psychopathic military guys, abusive ICP obsessed assholes, and anyone from my neighborhood need not apply. ...wow, I'm really picky, *L*. keep in mind, this is my dream guy, not a requisitions list. Love youse, -Katgrrl i guess i don't believe there is such a thing for me. have you ever heard that saying that is something like (i don't really know how it goes)....its not finding a perfect person to love, its finding a person to love perfectly. anyway, i guess i really believe that. no one is perfect or ideal. i don't think i could really list things that my ideal partner would have. because if someone happens to like the same music as me, laugh at the same jokes, watch the same movies etc... doesn't mean that i fall in love. i think there is more to it. but i don't know what it is. anyway, i don't know if i'm making sense... I really liked what Jenny said about it all. read hers. -Royanne Okay, at the risk of feeling cheesy...*grin* Someone who is my equal. Someone who is not homophobic or bi-phobic. Someone who is not very serious but can be when occasion calls for it. Someone who I love so much I start laughing when I think about them who I'm also really physically attracted to. Those are the basics. ;) ~Rosie I think it could be someone who cares and who shows it, somone to whom I could tell my storrys of how my day went and what i did with out repulsing them. Someone who can make me smile or laugh. Someone who will hold me and let me cry on there shoulder after a hard day. Someone who is my best friend in all the world. Or maybe not......
My ideal partner would have to be intelligent, charming, enjoy books, and have shock red hair. At this point I knew I had a problem, because I knew Two people who fit this description. The next moment I realized it didn't matter, as one of them considers me a lowly maggot. My 'Ip' needs to have respect and consideration for the other's opinions, out of love and not out of controlling your dislike. Ip would keep in mind that there is always a base person underneath all the innuendoes, and not be set off by the occasional grumpy mood or strange behavior, keeping in mind that the other is still independent of the other and going through his or her own personal ordeals. Ip needs to put up with my philosophical blabber. Ip gives me a slap in the face when I'm acting like an ass, and a hug when I'm feeling down. Ip and me need to help eachother through things; keep eachother from becoming to possessive or controlling over the other; communicate well (which isn't hard, my mouth starts moving pretty fast after a cup of coffee) and love eachother much. ~Danopian, Incurable Romantic (who doesn't want to be cured)~
i don't think there is such a thing as an ideal partner any more than there is an ideal person, an ideal friend. there's always alot to appreciate in someone, and flaws, and in the end it's this delicate balance that i don't think anyone can weigh. it just happens, it's just chemistry. sure there are some things that i tend to like, or i tend to dislike. but i think the most amazing thing about love is this clarity that can't be analyzed, but you know it when you have it, it's forgiveness and awe and gratitude and respect. how loving someone helps you appreciate the parts of them that are so different from yourself, whether you thought they were good or bad, whether they were on your list or not. some people just fit each other, and like clothing that fits you, people find their ideal in the most unlikely places...or the most conventional...and i can't seperate the idea of romantic love from any other...people who love each other come together, it's amazing but it's very hard to analyze. i love funniness seriousness sparkliness surliness plaid paisley whatever i love at the time. all the people i love are like a tapestry, their colors swirl together and make my life so beautiful, how can i possibly say what's my favorite color, what i wish i could change? pull one thread and there goes the design. Jenny This is what I want right now. Someone sweet, someone kind, someone patient. I want philisophical conversations in coffeeshops, watching the sunset in city alleyways, a good friend. Someone close to home, but not to close to me... yet. They should be patient, very patient. Not too close, too fast, too strong... they should wait for me, like I will wait for them. I want someone fun and charming and humorous on the surface, sensitive and thoughtful on the inside. Someone slightly mysterious, who I don't know too much about, and who wouldn't try to find out all about me either. Someone casual, who I would meet in the street. Someone easy to be around, who would take me to parties and fun events but also apprieciate the beauty of being quiet and contemplative. Someone who likes coffee and tea and classical music and candlelight, and thinks I'm sexxy and beautiful. Someone who doesn't holler at me in the street but comes up to me and says "Dude, I think you're cute, and I bet you're a thinker. I want to pick your brain. Let's get some coffee and talk." -wanderlust Hmm. This is really hard, especially now... it's weird and really a hard battle to fight with yourself to realize that the person you've spent two years of your life in love with is not your ideal partner... in fact, that you don't particularly work as partners. (It's worse when you love them even more after you break up, and the usual ways you had expressed your love don't happen anymore)... Anyway. I'm beginning that I don't have an ideal partner, simply a lot of people whom I love very much. To even be a close friend, one must communicate... I'm obsessive about communication, to the point that it's most of who I am. Other than that, I don't know
I changed my mind. What I wrote here before was not only incoherant but impossible. I give up. - Naela okay well i wasn't originally into this whole "ideal person" thing either, myself, but i think that as long as we realize that these are just things we happen to find attractive, and doesn't mean that something else, or someone not holding all of these qualities couldn't be just as attractive to both us and others that it's pretty harmless. so here's my list:
okay so i'm demanding. oh well. aren't we all, really? -jenkitty Fun, interested, geeky (in some form), attractive (to me), understands that everything deserves to be laughed at, romantic in an almost sappy way ;) teehee, yet blunt...passionate, loving, angsty (heheheh), open minded, randomly thoughtful, creative, silly, spontaneous. I prefer dark-ish hair and light eyes, but there are always exceptions. Dyed hair is a plus. Short hair, that likes to be played with. Ooh, and hairy toes! Yah, I know, you didn't have to hear that last one... hair on the hands is quite sexy too. Ahem. And smiles smiles smiles. Lots of this is almost an inside joke with myself... hm. Oh yes, and someone who adores me would be nice :)
Mmm... isn't the idea of an ideal partner a tad silly? I mean, if you choose to be with them, aren't they therefore ideal, at the very least, for that moment? I've found my ideal partner... She's ideal because I chose her, so... As far as I'm concerned, I'm with my ideal partner, at least my ideal partner for me-right-now. Isaac is smart, literate, and intellectual, he reads for fun and is a feminist of sorts. He's politically minded, he rides the bus all over Austin, he drinks coffee at my favorite place. Isaac is cute cute cute, cute enough for me to develop a huge crush on him before I even knew his name. He has gorgeous hair and eyes and a great smile. Isaac loves his mama and his little sister, and he loves my mama. He wears corduroy, he plays guitar, he writes journals and poetry and songs and other stuff. he won a big Texas playwriting competition when he was a Junior. He dropped out of school. He actually reads the books I recommend. He likes my friends. A lot. He's totally and completely willing to be silly, willing to wear makeup, and on occasional occasions (okay, once, for my birthday, but still...), willing to kiss my other guy friends. He loves that I'm weird. He adores me. I couldn't possibly ask for anything "better" or more "ideal". (~summer) oh man! i can think of a handful of elligble females that you could just take, and post up here, and they'd be my ideal female. i'd list em all for yah, but they'd probably be embarassed. not to mention my sister would get far too much enjoyment out of reading it. anyways. when i think of my ideal female, i think of a gal, who i can't understand. or pidgeonhole. someone who confuses me. and someone who flirts with me. and someone who likes to be physical (and i don't mean likes to 'get pysical'), to hug and roll, and play, and bounce around. and someone who i can aspire to be more like. someone with style, and heaps of it, and someone who kisses nicly. - Cory Robyn revises her list, having more clarity at the moment My ideal partner, not that there is such a thing, would have at least most of these characteristics:
Anyway, so that list shouldn't be too hard to fufill, right? After all, it already describes all of my good girlfriends... I gotta chime in with Rick, too. I used to think I knew exactly what my ideal partner would be like, and one after the other my boyz and gals teach me that they're my ideal partners, for that time, and I need to learn what they're going to teach me. It's good to have something in mind but also good to stay open to the present and see if your heart goes "ZING!" even while your mind is still consulting its checklist. I have so far met my ideal partner. he's sweet, fun, lovely, handsome, wonderful, generous, loving, funny, unique, deep, creative. he's the most amazing person I know. he knows more about me then I do. I can always talk to him, about anything and everything. he's my best friend, and the love of my life. I can't even begin to describe how much I love him. -Lydia R. All right, I've succumbed to the urge of writing a late night love related blather. Hmm. I don't know precisely what it is I seek in a life-long mate; I seem to have an excellent knack for realizing what I don't seek, though. I was sharing ice cream with an affable and entertaining fellow tonight, and realized that, though he was otherwise quite admirable, he was not The One...though I had hardly started that evening with the assumption that he was The One, the realization nevertheless left my life a bit more melancholy. Which is, of course, Silly..."I demand from the universe at large someone who I can adore wholeheartedly RIGHT NOW, darnit!" I don't really have a laundry list of male features and accessories that I can't do without (see above mention of complete lack of direction in this quest). Freakish intellect and a gift for prose is, of course, a given. Tolerance of eclectic literary, cinematic, and musical taste, chivalry, honor, a wry and/or zany sense of humor, and an appreciation for the random things in life are also necessities. Humm. I think that I'd be happy to spend life perched (sinuously?) on someone's shoulder, making whimsical remarks on the world down below and carrying on a perpetual dialogue on Love, Philosophy, British Sci Fi Shows, the nature of Stuff, and other shatteringly universal and yet comfortably individual topics. See, kids, these kinds of fantasies are what result when you cross a hopeless romantic with a mind candy addict...
Okay, so I had these three pre-heartbreak standards:
Then I added this post-heartbreak standard:
Okay, but those are just basic standards for, like, friends-with-priviliges and stuff! My Ideal Partner would be along the lines of, oh:
-Samantha I want someone. Who can roll down hills and play in the rain and take long bubbles baths and sing and dance and write and play and talk and cry and laugh at dumb jokes and find spontanaety and the moon beautiful and to love the stars and to aspire and be interested... Someone beautiful inside. Someone who appreciates music alot and finds beauty in small things. Someone understanding. Someone who realizes we all have faults. someone who likes eyes and bellys. Someone who can have fun. Someone who I love.-Rachel I don't think I can define it. Because, I think as much as I try, I just wouldn't know y'know? I mean, just because someone has all the qualities I like in a person doesn't mean we'd work well together in a relationship. I can't say "My ideal partner has blue eyes, and brown hair, likes to play soccer, and is a great kisser", because for all I know I could fall in love with someone with green eyes, blonde hair, who hates sports, and doesn't really know where her tounge should be going. So I guess my only requirement in an ideal partner is someone who I love, and who loves me back. Someone I feel comfortable with. Someone who'd be good for me, and I'd be good for them. -Zen P.S. Okay, I've thought about it and I'm full of shit. There ARE two things that I absolutely have to have in a partner: Sense of humor, and simular beliefs to mine about living life. I do have a very specific idea of my ideal girl, blond hair this and that y'know but pretty much any girl could be my ideal partner. Looks only go so far, personality is much deeper. Although at this point of my life I am a rather horny bastard. -Thanks, Spike. Ok, my perfect guy. I have a guy, but he's not perfect, he's just close enough that I don't really care. Unfortunatly, he doesn't feel the same about me. But that's neither here nor there. Physical Characteristics: Tall. At least 6' slightly narrow, but not skinny, not bony. Not fat or built either. Just right. Eye color, I don't care, but they have to be happy and laugh. Mental/Emotional Characteristics: Willing to be totally with me when we're together. Taks my hand when we're walking down the stret, just because he want's to because it makes us both happy. Willing to kiss me in public, just lightly, no tonsil hockey (although that's not necessarily bad) just because. Who doesn't insist on picking up the check every time, but will, if it's a special occasion. Want's to be with me, and only me. Likes my friends, and I like his friends, and we like hanging out with them together, but always liking being alone. Supports and encourages my more flamboyant side, rather than saying it's stupid and/or immature. Kristina Okay guys, what happens if you find the ideal partner, then what?
My ideal partner would be someone who i was really good friends with at first, THEN get into a relationship. Here are the characteristics/qualities i want:
*Has a good sense of humor (but knows when it goes to far)
*Really listens to me (and vice versa obviously)
*Likes to dance, listen to music,watch movies
and is willing to just hang around and talk
*Makes me smile(adoringly) when i look at him
*Has always been male, and still is (hehehe)
*Willing to learn new things
*Can make his own decisions
*Cooks (at least a little)
*Can give pretty good massages
*Likes to read
*Doesn't hate opera and classical music
*Never hits me, or talks down to me, doesn't play mind games
and isn't manipulative
*Is able to give me space when i need it
*And has to be romantic
Now, i know that is alot to ask for from the male sex, but hey a girl has to have someway to narrow the field down! ~Snow~ Well, I don't have a whole lot of requirements..just a few..
Yes, that's it. =) -Jekissa Someone to watch the sun set and stars come out with. Someone who is always willing/wanting to listen, and give good advice (but doesn't get mad if i don't listen). Does sweet little things for me, like lighting a roomful of candles, and planning a beautiful day, just for the two of us. Someone who gives incredible back massages, foot rubs, hugs, and of course lotsa kisses. Likes to talk for hours upon hours about everything under the sun with me. Has their own opinion, but is willing to listen to mine as well. Likes to read, dance, have fun. Has similar taste in music/food/books etc... but will also introduce me to their fav types of music/books/food etc... Loves/likes to cook, 'specially cooking together. Wants to have a family, live somewhere kinda in the country. Enjoys traveling, meeting people, exploring new things. Isn't homophobic/biphobic/racist/ or against different religions... Someone who is good looking/cute is also a plus! Enjoys their body & mine, treats both themself and me with respect. Someone with whome is totally and completely as in love with me as I am with them.
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