Same Sex

Can you really be really close friends with someone, who is not of the same Sex? can a guy be really good friends with a resonably atractive girl (or other way around) with out haveing some kind of weird crush on them?

• cough cough. one of my best friend's a guy. ive knowen him all my life. i have at one point crushed out over him but mind you at the time i would crush out over any guy with a nice smile and would talk to me. yes toatly. see!! im doing it right now! isde why couldnt you???? -Heather

• I've always found guys easier to talk to, and for the past year and a half my best friend has been Eric, and yes I'm terribly attracted to him, and yah... it's causing some problems (as many of you on from IRC conversations...)... But on the other side, I have another guy friend whom I'm really close to, and am not attracted/crushed on him in the least.. So i think it could go either way with friends of the opposite sex. My two cents ~Jadzia

The majority of my best friends over the course of my entire life have all been female.

And it's never been a problem.

Zoink.

• awww phooey. -ali

i have several male-gendered friends (hey, that's fun to say) and i tend to get little tiny crushes on most of them... mainly because if i'm attracted to someone as a friend, they must not be all that horrible, and... god, that's not a good argument... anyway, eveb if i do, i still love them mainly as friends... but still, the attraction is always there, sort of biting in the back of my brain... i'd love to squish that little bastard... but then again, i get crushes on girls too... but it's never as big a problem.... i'm using too many periods.... -ali

Here at home, I hang out with different groups of people, and most of them are guys. I don't know why it is, but I find myself more comfortable around them. They treat me like a sister. But I do have to admit that I've gotten crushes on almost all of them, and it's caused problems either in my mind, or on the outside as well. I do have a completely platonic guy friend who I'm really close to, so I know it's possible, but it's not usually the case. Usually, I have some degree of attraction to them. In the past, I've even had slight attractions to some of my girl friends (it doesn't seem to happen now, though). *sigh* I want a lover. And I keep unconsciously looking for my friends to fill the position, even when I know they can't.

Yes. But with all of my really good guy friends, I've somehow dealt with the friend-or-lover issue... either by having a crush on them in the past and getting over it, or actually talking it over with the guy and deciding together that it really wouldn't work, or some variant. Good friends is not something that just happens... and sexual tension is there between men and women. We're made for that to happen. But it can be worked out. If I like a guy a lot I do tend to channel that into a crush, but as I get to know a guy well as a friend that dissappears. Mostly. *grin* 'Course, then you have to decide what counts as a crush and what's more of a gee-they're-cool sorta thing. *grin*