From a discussion on birth control on a local bbs: >>> "There is one form of birth control that hasn't been addressed. The only thing that guarantees 100% protection is abstinence." >>"lesbianism." >"hysterectomy."
i think sex is a really wonderful thing that is also given a lot of power. not always good power either.i think it's sad that so many people fear sex. for me, it's a wonderful experience that i've shared with people i love and i don't regret it. i also dont define sex as straight-intercourse. that's really narrow. why do people always assume you mean heterosexual intercourse when you say "sex"? just a thought. anyway... Needless to say, it's something that I'm not seeing in the near future, being as I'm only 13, but I think that it is one of the most powerful acts of love ever. I mean, I cannot even begin to imagine ever being that close to ANYONE ever - it's just completely beyond my scope of mind. -Jessica (a.k.a. JessicaSkater) People may say, that sex is wonderful, but its also awkward, at least at first, and afterwards it felt, like my body wasn't mine again. And I waited impatiently the time of month when I would bleed, and for the first time it really felt like I was bleeding. And sex can be something, that brings a lot of worries and concerns. It's true love, right? And then one doesn't know anymore. Sex can bring out, the uncaringness, in someone you thought you loved... and you can discover, that they care only for themselves, and their pleasure. No matter how much one has talked before with them, about sex being spiritual and loving. And everything your parents taught you, every thought or judgement you're making now, could come back to haunt you... And perhaps sex can be wonderful... but it isn't always. sigh.... never one to shy from controversy, I'll jump in... Why is it that people who want to treat sex as a "sacred" act must look down on those who feel differently? Whenever I have discussed it with someone who has a more restricted view on sex than myself I have always felt lectured, the other person coming across as condescending.. and no need to feel defensive, I'm not looking to chew anyone out (I have been on the recieving end of enough chewing outs on the subject)...... hmm.. guess none of that had to do with my thoughts on sex huh? Well I'm all for it. Treat it as a sacred event if you want, but it's great anytime.... Jason ps: Tigger gets Chicks [4] "It is awesome in every way, and it makes a bond between two (or more?) people that is inexplanable" [3]~Erin As Tigger[1] would say, "Fun fun fun fun fun!!" [0] [0] All right, whoever wrote that tasteless line has sickened me beyond belief. How dare you use Winnie the Pooh in such a tasteless way?! Winnie the ooh is a wonderful, wise philosopher, and I don't think he would say "fun, fun, fun!" in regard to sex. In fact, I can't ever recall hearing him say anything involving the word fun. He doesn't say things like that. -Robyn P.S. That's aslo an extremely cavalier way to treat sex, if you ask me.
[1]My oppoligies for writing pooh, it Was Tigger who said that. [2] I don't think it's dirty, dangerous, or bad, but I do think it's a force to be reckoned with and needs to be taken seriously. I'm not saying it's not beautiful, I think it is. But, I think it's beautiful in a way that needs to be treated with respect. Sorry if I offended you. -Robyn Robyn, considering how many possible sexual combinations are out there (every single person, plus every other person they are sexual with), you gotta realize it's gonna mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. For many people, at many times of their lives, it's not going to be "a force to be reckoned with" or "something to be taken seriously" not because they are being foolish and disrespectful about it, but because they are wise and it has become a natural, easy and *gasp* fun part of their life. So I'm thinking there must be some reason why that comment bothered you. A train of thought you'd like to share, perhaps? Reanna Look, Reanna, I'm not the only one who was stating their opinion in a forceful way. I, personally, believe you should treat sex with respect no matter how fun it is (and I did say it could be fun, too, so you can't deny it) and now I'm just going to shut up ang let you all think I'm some kind of repressed sad person. -Robyn No, no, I wasn't meaning to ... I mean, I'm asking you. Where this strong feeling came from...? What are you thinking about these days? Man, who woulda thought we could get into an argument about sex? - Reanna Okay, I'm sorry. I was feeling on the defensive. Felt like everyone jumped on me there. Now. Why did that offend me? (Warning: This is my honest opinion, and I'm going to write it as gently as I can, but it's still it) I guess I've been using the wrong word. The way I would like sex to be treated, and the want to treat sex my whole life, is that it's a pretty sacred thing. Something to be shared in private among two people and, not to be taken lightly. By which I mean as an act to be done with anyone, anytime, without dicretion, etc. To have sex without thought is upsetting the balance, in my mind, because it doesn't take into account all the other things sex does beside physical pleasure i.e. pregnancy, STDs, hating the other person, etc. So the reason that comment upsetted me is because to me it seemed a symbol of what I was just talking about (no offense to whoever wrote it, I realize it probably didn't mean that to you). It didn't seem like they took it with any seriousness at all, and I think it should be treated with such. There, I think I may have said that vaguely right. -Robyn Sex is like picking your nose: The thought of it is kind of gross, unless your the one doing the picking. Everybody dose it at one time or another. People have been caught doing it in cars. No one will admit it, but it feels great while your doing it and afterwards you take deep breaths through your nose. I'm NOT even going to say anything about Sucking/Swallowing. -Tyler PS. I humbly appoligise for my sence of humor that might but should not be taken as a mockery or insult to this conversation. Man, Tyler...you know, that made this whole sad sorry page worth replying to. Granted, I'm not going to say anything worth reading or relating to the subject, but I'm just happy to know I could if I'd wanted to. This last sentence is just to take up space. -God I am going to add my three cents worth on the complicated subject of sex. It is a basic physical act, but being human, our emotions are going to be involved and it really makes life so odd. From my personal experience, sex can be casual, but not for very long, and in this day and age it is also kind of dangerous. Sex can change things between people so much. I think the biggest thing a person should know is, you should be careful how one goes about sex, because you don't want to regret sex. Also you really need to have a sense of humour about the whole thing. It is so undignified...one of the most undignified things you can do with another person...besides appear on the jerry springer show. Sex is fun and should be fun, but you have to treat it with a mature attitude, or one can be hurt. gennie oh man. i'm laughin! *naomi stops laughing* okay then... sex! me, little miss moth, i'm a christian girl. i don't know if any of you knew that... and so due to values i have, plus a whole lot of other reasons, i have made the very important decision in my own life to *gasp* wait until marriage. i realise this way of doing things is practically expired, and doubtlessly "old-fashioned", but being the person i am and living my life the way i do, it is the way for me. see... i place sex on this pedestal, it is sacred in my eyes. it's something i was given, and i make the choice who i give it to. i feel at peace with the idea of only giving it to one person. another thing i hold sacred is marriage. i do not think that marriage should be taken lightly, marriage is a union of two people who want to give themselves unto one another. but what would the great gift of marriage be without the sacred accompaniment of hot sweaty looove?! i don't want my wedding night to be a repeat! a reminder of past lovers! no thanks. i want all this built up passion and tensity to come bursting out for the best sex of my life. now, people get awfully nit-picky and practical... pointing out things like "but sex hurts for the first time, you want it to hurt on your wedding night?" and "what if your hubby's no good in the sack?" but oh man. i'll just have faith that all those little details will work themselves out. but then... what is the definition of sex? intercourse? or are all those other creative endeavours by the human race, are they sex? or are they similar to, say, making out? hmm... this is where my morals have to kick in, pray they do. i'll know at the given time and place what's going to be "appropriate" or "healthy"... but lets just say the chances of me waiting for marriage to experiment *cough orally cough* aren't very likely. and that's okay... because it's all about what you're comfortable with. and so, in response to what jason said about stuck up virgins bitching to him... well, it's their problem. i'm not here to tell anyone else how to live, i'm just here to talk. and everytime i explain to people why i want to save myself till marriage, it sort of reincorporates the entire theory within me, just in case i'd forgotten... and that's why i love to talk about it. i'm not bragging. this is no thing to brag about, considering most people think i'm pretty lame for wanting to live my life this way. whatever. and i'm not trying to tell anyone that what they're doing is "wrong". i don't do that. but i would like to say, that those who do treat sex with respect often find it more understandable. but also, those who who are scared of it can never open up to the people they love. er.. yeah, open up as in.. well.. shit. SAFE SEX! ~naomi the lustful moth sex. it's almost every emotion you can think of. it is (or can be) love, lust, fear, passion, trust, honesty, lies, everything, or nothing. it's kind of like one of those crystal rainbow makers that you hang in the window to catch the sunlight and make rainbows. it's beautiful and mysterious, something you can't define, catch or hold onto, something that constantly changes, depending on the surface (the person) it's being reflected on. i think there is a deffinate difference between making love with someone, and basically, fucking someone. i don't think either way is wrong or right, but there IS a difference in the feeling of the act. i don't personally regret anything i've done sexually with anyone, because life is an experiance, and i take sex as part of that experiance...so i wouldn't go back on what i've done. but, i think it can be very worth it to wait to have sex. it can build more passion, wonder and fun tension with a person if you don't have sex right off the bat. sex also confuses everything, i've noticed. it matters alot more if you feel like someone doesn't care about you enough, when you've slept with them. the thing i've learned most recently(from personal experiance) about sex is that flings(meaning more than a literal-one-night-stand of one night, and less than, say, about a week) with friends that are mutually attracted to each other can get just as emotionaly funky as relationships can. and this is when both people are agreeing, outloud, in disscusion, that sex can be had for the sake of the physical enjoyment of it, with someone you care about/love, but aren't going to look for a relationship of any kind with, besides that short term fling deal. anyway. i can't coherently explain my ideas about sex very well, can i? for me, it comes down to this. it is beautiful and special, but for me that beautiful specialness doesn't mean i should wait for one person. it's fun, but something to be taken seriously. you have to consider what you want out of any type of romantic interaction with someone, and do your best to make sure both people are on the same level of thinking about what the act of their sex together means. and always always always be safe. nothing, not even the best sex in the world, is worth what you go through when something unexpected like pregnancy happens. and take it all as an experiance...it has it's good parts and it's bad parts, so you gotta take it for what you feel it's worth. ~sarah compton~ first, i would just like to say that sarah compton is great.:) that was beautifully put and very articulate and insightful. you get an A+. now for me. i agree with bits and pieces of what everyone said. including that note from tigger. i don't think anyone has stressed enough that it is fun. and yah, it has consequences, but i think it should be taken into account that when you are safe, and trusting/in love/clear about consequences, it is fun! and beautiful, and it feels really good. i have always had a relaxed view about sex, and despite all the warnings i got, when i lost my virginity my views didn't change much. i still think it's beautiful and fun and appreciate that its a natural, human thing. and yah, i know someone will argue that contraceptives are not natural, and therefor doing it for pleasure is not natural. but STDs were not an issue until relatively recently, and a woman does not necesarily get pregnant immediately after she has unprotected sex. all over the world, for all of human hsitory, people have been having sex. not all cultures consider it sacred solely because of procreation. most also celebrate the pleasure, and enjoy sex because it is enjoyable. and i feel like if you are safe and sure, it doesn't need to be treated with such seriousness! it is just an act. it is beautiful and deep and significant, but i have always felt that my first kiss had more of an impact on me. or my first sexual experience. definitely the first time i fell in love. it's not quite as big a deal (to me) as some people make it out to be. nor as small of a deal as the media makes it out to be. it's fun. and it's powerful. and it's beautiful. and in my mind, it is something to be celebrated. ~carsie ~~~~~~~~ [3] also, Reanna would like to add, from personal experience, that sexuality can push people apart emotionally sometimes, just as easily as it can bring them together. [4] wow, what ever does jason mean by that? hahaha.... I have thrown off a lot of people saying "X gets Chicks"... the one that drew the strangest looks was "Elian gets Chicks".... there is a story behind it, but this isn't the place, so go to TiggerGetsChicks NBTSWikiWiki | Recent Changes Edited 9 times, last edited on April 17, 2001 by 144.13.106.60. © 2000 NBTSC Webmasters |
