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yo so. mmkay. i'm UnDecideD. on the topic of going back to camp. on the one hand. it is very disruptive to the flow of my life. it means i meet a whole bunch of kickass people who i'll miss for the rest of my life. and it costs lots. ont he other hand. camp kicks fucking ass. it's a tough debate in my head. also, i have to stop going eventually. i just do. so when will that be? this year? next? i think everybody has this debate in their head at least once. what are your reasons for, and what are your reasons against? - cory


... I have been thinking about this one a lot lately, and i hope i can say it clearly in the 10 mintues i have left.

 I have clear reasons for not making it to camp: i wont have the money and
i'll be somewhere in Europe through most of it.

but... i dont know.. I love camp dont get me wrong, it changed my life and i will owe it a debt forever for that. Ever. Always. I am who i am because i showed up the summer i was 17.

I felt a little disillusioned last year because im so much older. no thats not right.. its that i want something else out of camp. I feel bad for showing up wanting this intense emotional bonding connecting community *thing*, when camp should be a fun inspiring place for unschooling teenagers to get together. Like if we want a deep emotional heart attack we can all go over there and have one, but to want one and create one in front of a bunch of kids who would like to have some fun and enjoy self education seems selfish... Maybe im just justfing my own means for not making it...

I fear the older people (shit, yikes, thats us!) sort of ... taking over camp you know? The younger generation have a right to be leaders, take on the spot light, create traditions, bring ideas and concepts into focus.

The deepest most wonderful thing i learned about camp, is that it works outside of camp. Take 4 or 6 or 14 camper/unschoolers/tribers, give them some hot green tea and a few card games and it's like you never left.

I will miss camp, the whole group, the bus ride, last night, running around, the hot sun.... but the people, the power and love, remains and is right under the surface....

      love
         -Dawn

reasons to go back to camp another year:

  • see my friends.
  • make new friends
  • get reinspired
  • learn so much more about myself and others
  • a week away from life
  • a week in a beautiful green place
  • fun little soap operas and flings
  • wonderful and insperational discussions with people my age
  • new enthusiasm for life
  • power shuffle
  • because when you look at the registration forms, you can't NOT.
  • people who love you before they know you and you can hug or cuddle or kick...
  • escape
  • hell, i'm convinced. i'm going.
  • add more....

reasons not to go another year:

  • you have to stop eventually
  • it's spensive
  • all those people you'll miss more after seeing again, or meeting for the first time.
  • goddamn colds
  • college
  • confusion
  • confusing relationships (altho' they're a part of life)
  • you could use the money you would spend on camp to visit people after camp
  • it sorta sets ya back...there's so much other stuf to be doing
  • not very fun little soap operas and flings
  • you're away from your family and home...(wait a sec...)
  • you have to travail to get there (wait a sec...)
  • cliques
  • people you really don't want to see again...but mayhap should?
  • add more...

so basically when it comes round to registration time im going to look at this and use it to help me decide. mmmkay? (that, or i'll just go anyway, 'cz y'all rule too much.) - cory


Yeah, sure. There are way more reasons for me not to go to camp again than there are reasons to go, but the things on my 'reasons to go' list are so much better than the ones on my 'not to go' list. I mean, yeah, camp crushes/ flings/ colds suck, but doesn't the whole getting to see a bunch of kick-ass people again, getting to live almost drowned in hugs for a week, getting to talk to awesome people, etc... doesn't that outweigh the colds, crushes, and flings (oh yeah- and the money)???? For me, it totally does, so there's no debate as to whether I'm going to camp next year. (and cory- you'd better come back, 'cause I hardly got to talk to you at all this year. thbpt) -JessicaSkater


hey cory, great idea for a page... i've been trying to decide whether to go to 1 session or 2 next year... anyway, i want to say that for me, missing people is not a bad thing. it reminds me that i can feel, that i can love this much, that there are people that love me that much, that i do have a place where i can feel absolutely at home. for me, i'd rather be miserable missing the greatest friends in the world than just plodding along through a good, but not fantastic, life. --marina


good idea for a page Cory! well i totally undertstand where some of you are coming from about whether you should go back to camp or not. I had a lot of hard emotional times at camp and it was devastating for me to leave the friends i'd made (especially one person in particular who i had so many feelings for and love so much) and go home knowing that i wouldn't see them again for at least a year or maybe never. Camp definately left my emotions in a whirl. And certian relationships i have with people from nbtsc left me confused and sad, yet somehow elated. Anyway, in spite of having a hard time after returning from camp this year, i am going back because i think that i learned so much from what i went through, and even though i had hard times camp was still the best week of my entire life. For years i have had this discontentment- i have wanted friendships and experiences like the ones i found at camp. And finally i went to camp and found what i'd been searching for: other teenagers who understand me and will accept me for who i am even if i like country music and don't wear the latest trends. so i'll be at camp next year, for sure! ~nell

oh wait- i'm still gonna list my reasons for why i want to go back and reasons why i wouldn't want to go back- cuz i have both kinds of reasons, even though the reasons to go back definately overpower the reasons not to go back. -Nell

so here's my lists:

Reasons to go back to camp next year:

  • it's fun and you learn so much!
  • see all my friends
  • make new friends
  • talent shows are such an inspiration
  • workshops are incredible!
  • having long meaningful discussions
  • couch piles
  • the Power Shuffle
  • the overwhelming amount of love and support camp provides

Reasons not to go back to camp next year:

  • it's very emotionally difficult
  • leaving everyone at the end of the week
  • the temptation to have flings
  • Truth Or Dare games that get out of hand
  • making friends with someone who you love so much, then getting home from camp and waiting and not getting a single phone call or letter...it's devasting...it's hard for me to care about someone to the ends of the earth and think they care equally about me, and then have them not keep in touch...
  • cold, cold, weather
    • Whaaaaat? That was cold to you? Oh...yeah... you live in Hawaii. Hehe. Seeing as I live in Minnesota, that wasn't really cold to me. Buck up- at least camp isn't here, eh? (Then you get 10 below and colder mornings!! Of course... not in fall...)

well those are my reasons, y'all...but i am going back to camp next year, as long as I'm able to afford it. ~Nell


reasons to go back to camp;

people redefining...well, everything learning stuff feeling unafraid

reasons not to go back;

money problems depression loneliness feeling out of place not wanting to hang on anybody

love, Kat/Kate


Reasons To Go:

   * Contribute to other people having experiences as great as I've had.
   * Share new talents and joys with old and new friends
   * See how people and their hair has changed
   * See what the new crop of campers is like
   * New writing subjects for wiki wiki
   * Won't feel like you've missed out
   * Jumping point for other travel
   * Get your hair dyed, maybe for free!
   * Learn how to do cool things
   * See a lot of really talented people perform. 
   * Laugh a lot
   * Feel loved. 

Reasons Not To Go:

   * Guilt afterwards about not talking to people you should have
   * Unrequited crushes suck.
   * Radical honesty and power shuffles are scary and emotionally
rollercoastering. 
   * You might be missing concerts, girls, money, fun, and/or friends at
home or somewhere else. 
   * Little to no candy for a week or more. 
   * It really is expensive. 
   * You really do miss people. 
   * It will get you obsessed with your memories for at least a month
afterwards.
   * Post Camp Depression
   * You have issues with some of the people there or some of the things
about it, issues that will probably never be resolved. 
   * So and so annoys you. 
   * It interrupts your life and becomes the focus of the entire year, while
you might rather focus on a job or a talent or a girl or a boi. 

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Reasons to go back:

  • to refill your hug supply
  • listen to beautiful music all week and worship the musicians who make it
  • perhaps you may meet the Love of Your Life (well, at least your Love of The Next Few Months)
  • to make new friends
  • to see old ones
  • to resolve issues you may have left unfinished last year
  • lots of cuddles!
  • meet new people
  • tell all the wonderful things you've done/are since the last year
  • you will know the in-jokes for that year & session ;)
  • see how people have changed

Reasons not to go back:

  • people have changed
  • you have changed
  • those unresolved issues
  • you may find you no longer fit in
  • you may expect too much of it
  • it's always held at ThatTimeOfMonth! I swear!!
  • you may meet Your Love of The Next Few Months, spend all your valuable camp time gazing glazedly into their eyes, and at the end be torn from your darling and never have really spent time with anyone else at camp
  • in-jokes you may not know
  • you may be overwhelmed
  • you may be extremely intimidated
  • cliques
  • and, of course, money

those are my general reasons. If I went back, it would be personally because:

  • a lot of my friends don't write me and this is one of the few times i get to see them and talk to them
  • camp is an atmosphere where I make friendships extremely quickly. Fascinating, honest and loving people go there, and camp (by and large, in my experience) shows people's fascinating, honest and loving sides
  • I usually make a lot of new friends
  • the quiet (relative) calmness of the kitchen as I do my chores and talk to people
  • reminiscing on old times and what we secretly thought way back when with old friends
  • it is a community which has given a lot to me and where I feel a part of me (at least) still has a place. I've been going for years and years
  • Myrtlewood. I have a love affair with the place...I'm in love with the smell of the bay leaves, the cold pre-dawn air, the late-summer light in the pines, the steep and solitary hiking trails, but especially the dusty, quiet bridge
  • being around a bunch of neat people my age in an atmosphere where being queer is okay
  • the old wall hangings I've known since I was 11
  • the girls' showers which are always scalding hot or abruptly frigid
  • the schoolbus ride out to Myrtlewood
  • being in Oregon
  • going to nifty workshops (dance!)
  • little shattered pieces of time, a brief and beautiful moment, that stays in your mind for years after the more practical details have been swept out
  • personal reasons not to go forthcoming.
  ~Rosie

My reasons to go:

  • beautiful, wonderful, incredibly cool people I get to meet and connect with
  • the atmosphere of unconditional love I can't find anywhere else
  • everybody being physically affectionate
  • so... many... people! it's a natural high!
  • I always learn something about myself
  • who knows; I might end up attending a few more workshops this year
  • fun with soap operas!
  • those impromptu dances after dark
  • all those things Rosie and Cory said
  • not sleeping alone at night
  • helping people through tough times is something I enjoy doing

My resons not to go:

  • it's fucking expensive, and I want to spend my money on travel
  • at age 19, I'm not technically supposed to go again as a camper, and I might not be able to go as a junior staffer
  • this might sound silly... but the hicky thing (though fun) is getting old, and all y'all purty people are technically jail bait
  • there are so many wonderful people I'm not gonna have enough time to connect with
  • I never end up going to all the workshops I want to anyway
  • Susannah deserves Camp time without me there

-Samantha


 to go...
  • what about meeting an incredible community i've been blessed to have a taste of?
  • what about getting to know myself by getting to know others?
  • what about getting a little travelling experience under my belt?
  • what about an opportunity to change and grow in thousands of ways?
  • what about getting away from what i'm used to?
  • what about new friends?
  • what about fun flings?
  • what about the beauty?
  • what about getting out on my own?
  • what about living with having made the decision not to go?
 or not to go...
  • what about money?
  • what about highschool?
  • what about getting lonely?
  • what about getting homesick?
  • what about not being accepted?
  • what about not having enough time to get used to being me around all these new people?
  • what about self-conciousness?
  • what about expectations?

this is harder than i thought.

-moth


i wasn't planning on going this year, just cause.. i was going to do other things. and i'm still going to do other things. but i was talking to naomi and jasmine about camp a few days ago, and i was getting some awfully irresistable urges, and...well, i don't know. i want to go so freaking bad, because camp rocks, no matter what else i'm doing. i want to go to session two as a junior staff person. if i can't go as junior staff, i still might go. it sort of depends on college and job schedules. or actually it depends on how willing i am to miss at least a week of each.. but it's probably worth it, really. i am still very undecided. -courtney


I'm really, really undecided about this.

The money problem is okay now. I have a job that pays pretty well... I can make the money for camp in about a month or less. The thing is, would it be worth it to pay all that money (even if I can make it faster) and then go to camp and have a horrible time?

...okay, I didn't have a horrible time last year, but it wasn't the best time either. I was so out of it. Same thing with the unschooler's weekend in January. This keeps happening; I'll pay all this money to see unschoolers and then find that they all know each other and don't notice me at all. At least, that's what happened at the weekend.

Is camp different? When I think about the good things about camp, it all seems so worth it. The friends I made there are wonderful, and the atmosphere is not nearly as cliquish as other places I've been.

And I want to have a second chance. I want to go and give something back to camp, maybe be a peer advisor or something? I want to make people feel included and loved. There are so many things I didn't do at camp last year that I would love to do this year. Maybe I would read my poetry in the talent show.

On the other hand, would anyone miss me if I didn't go to camp this year? That feels like such a selfish thing to ask, but a lot of this DOES depend on whether anyone cares whether I'm there or not. Of course, if no one remembered me and I went this year, it would be just like the first year. But no year could be like the first year.

What if I totally don't fit in anymore? Is there such a thing as fitting in? Maybe there is. I know it's a lot easier to have a good time at camp if you're a glittery, bright, bouncy person... and I'm not too good at that. I'm scared camp this year will be like last year....

...but I think I may regret not taking the chance. There's so much I would miss out on.

Or, let's analyze this another way. Pros and cons.

Pros:

  • Physical contact, which I need badly
  • Feeling loved
  • Wonderful workshops
  • The chance to travel on the train again! With campers, too!
  • Giving something back, making other people feel good
  • Discussing travel plans with other travelers
  • Having flings with cute camp bois ;) (well...)
  • Positive energy
  • Deep conversations
  • New people to meet!
  • Old friends to meet up with, friends I miss badly
  • The talent show
  • That feeling of contentment I haven't been able to find anywhere else.

Cons:

  • $460?!!!!??! For a week!
  • Maybe I'll clam up and not talk to anyone :-\
  • Maybe I'm too old for camp, and the other people I'd want to be around aren't going this year (Dawn, Shippy, Rick?, etc)
  • Big confusing crowds of people
  • Maybe I won't "fit in"
  • Maybe I'm just trying to get camp '99 back, and that week will never come back

Oh god, I don't know. I'm so fucking indecisive about this.

~Eire

  • Well, I personally hope that you do go, because I'd really like to meet you. . . . but I guess that's not really relevant. 'Tis your decision, after all. --Amy

I'm terribly undecided about camp. On the one hand there is nothing I would rather do than go to NBTSC this summer, and meet all the people I've been getting to know these past few months... But it is $460.00, and for me, that's a LOT of money. I do have a job, but I'm trying to save money for a car, and if I spend the money on camp & theory, it'll set me back at least 2 months (maybe more) for buying my car, which is something I desperately need.

Reasons for going

  • meet incredible friends
  • 5 days with many hugs, cuddles, and backrubs
  • intellectual/meaningful conversations
  • awesome workshops
  • an accepting group of individuals
  • many new friends
  • really being part of this community
  • feeling loved
  • traveling to oregon...
  • everything on the above lists by others

Reasons for not going

  • $460.00 (Need I say More)
  • missing people after camp...

Okay, so thats my list as of july 1st. I just got put on the waiting list, and will have to decided if I'm going or not, when and if a space opens up for me... I'd luv to hear any & all advice!! ~Jadzia

 
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