Describe YerVirginity here. Virginity. Mine. Its mine, i definitly know that, mine to have keep lose and one day transform into something else. First, it only seems to have meaning in traditional heterosexual gender roles. What meanign does Gender have to a Trannie, or a Queer? In some vauge sense i can understand woman loseing virginity, because some physical transformation could take place, but what about among men? It bothers me that there is no word for "this is a heathy sexual woman in a sexual relationship without children". Either we/they are virgins (sexuallly pure) whores (not so) or Mothers. I am a woman. I am a virgin- I havent had heterosexual intercourse. I am not niave. Nor am i particually strait. hm. -Dawn you know whats realy fun? is takin a pice of paper and wrighting virginity on it hten go and leve it some were then you can go home and say "I lost my virginity!"
Somebody started this blank page, so I assume they wanted a discussion on this topic... virginity is a word that is linked up in my mind with images of young women in white dresses, proper feminity, and greek fairy-tales. Its something that used to be mandatory for the female, but an embaressment for the guys. Its something that... that the woman must protect, in some way. Its still wrapped up with ideas of moral rights and wrongs. What's the big difference? If a person has sex, really, how much does that change a person? Why shouldn't a person just go ahead, whenever they want? And once a person has had sex, why does that make them any different than before? Can they return to "virginity" if they cease having sex for a while? What does it mean? Not that I believe the theory I'm about to tell you about, but it was the first thing that popped into my mind when I read this. I'm sure many of you have read Carlos Castaneda's books, but there's another book by Taisha Abelar called "The Sorcerer's Crossing". Taisha was taught by the same group of people that Carlos was taught by (Mexican Indian sorcerers), but she's a woman. Anyway, one of the things I remember being a major part of her teachings was about sex. She was told that she would no longer be allowed to have sex as a woman sorcerer, because men leave strings of their own power inside a woman's womb, that they can then use to control the woman if they are also a sorcerer. On the other hand, they also talk about how a woman is automatically a more powerful sorcerer than a man, just by nature. I don't really go for this kind of thinking about sex, but it DOES manage to get you wondering about what could happen to a woman's energy or a man's energy as a result of sex. I've also always been a bit puzzled over the idea of virginity itself. What's more pure?: Someone who's never had sex and has learned not to need it, or someone who often has sex and is made happier by it. There are so many religions that tell you to abstain from it for purity's sake...... but I honestly don't see how it would make that much of a difference spiritually. Anybody else have some insights? I get confuzzled when I think about it. -Mel(Other) Had an interesting thought while looking at this page title on RecentChanges... I consider myself an emotional virgin as well as a physical virgin. Everyone I've had a sexual expirience with has touched me in different ways, litterally as well as emotionally. I do like the idea of keeping my emotional and physical virginity matched up, balanced. Perhaps when I find someone I really truely love, who really truely loves me too, and we are able to spend lots of time together, that will be the time to loose my physical virginity. In any case, I don't think phyical virginity matters nearly as much to me as emotional virginity. Ok. Now I have a question. What is the opposite of virginity? What do you get when you "loose" your virginity? Who are you when you're not a virgin? What is this word??? my virginity defines me, in a way. i am not gonna get it on until i get hitched. the lifestyle i have chosen to live and the guidelines i've chosen to follow (referance: da Bible) place great importance on maintaining abstinence until after marriage. i think that the union of two bodies is something that needs to be saved and something that needs to take place in the time of union between the two souls; i only want to marry one man, i only want to have sex with one man. sex is cosmically important to me! some people think i blow it out of proportion. my opinion is this: how you treat/see/deal with sex is what defines its importance in your life, therefore it is relative and based on the individual. sex is an incredible thing to me, it will always be a big, important deal. when i think about losing my virginity, i can only imagine it as this: me giving something i have held so sacred for so long, something so vitally important to me... me giving that up to the one person i am in love with. that's a beautiful gift, if you ask me. i can't wait. er. i guess i'll have to, won't i? -naomi Is in tact.....-Matt H What does "loosing virginity" mean? Does one wake up after sex and say "Oops, where did my virginity go?" Does it roll away in the night and become lost in the garden, buried amongst weeds? Does one awaken with a feeling of accomplishment, or a feeling of something dearly precious lost? Why should I save myself for one person, when there may be no one that I may be right for... or mayhap that I will find friends in strange ground, and I may share myself with those who are nothing like me, yet surprise me with their odd understanding of these matters. I do not know.
I'm a virgin. I think sex is a big deal... I don't really think about it too much, because I don't feel like I'm "ready". I've only met one person that I trust so much, that I would consider having sex with them. But I still don't really want to have sex. So I don't. I'm not really confused or wondering what virginity means, or are you still technically a virgin if this or this or this happens. I don't really care all that much. Or it may be because I'm tired. But... It is what it is. I leave it at that.
What happens if when you were 6 and raped? I, was, but i don't remember feelings of fear, or really much at all. The man was a adult friend of mine, and I had spent lots of time around him. I trusted him totally with my little innocent heart. When it happened, I didn't even think about what happened, it wasn't voilent, it was slow... There's only one person who knows this happened...(besides him, who now, i do believe, is in jail, for drug possesion), and I wish I would have never told him, because now I want to pretend, pretend I'm a virgin...I don't really care. But if I didn't, why would I be writing this...I just don't know anymore.
well I liked to start out by saying that I think that's really to bad that something like that happed to you, and that I think it happens way to much, and it's amazing I haven't killed someone over something like what happed to you. but back to the qustion you asked. I think you still have your virginity, mentaly and fizzacaly. virginity to me is way more then just sticking it in. there's more to in then that. some people might think you lost it, but you'll always have it mentaly, and no one can take that away from you... some people asked me if I ever did anything with a guy (this was before I did like a year ago) and I always said no, even though I did do something with a guy friend when I was like 4. I was little and it meant nothing to me, so to me it will always be nothing. so really it's all in your mind. make it what you want.... as for me and what I think about it.... well I think it's something that should be waited on, but then I think about it again and come to this... I think there's two ways you can do things. you can do it with someone, but if it didn't really mean anything besides a fun time, then it really won't be losing my virginity in my mind. fizzcaly yes, but there's more to sex then just having a fun time. I think when it's used the right way, it can be one of the most beautiful things in this world. a lot of people don't see it that way and just see it as a fun time. I find that sad. I can understand doing it for fun every once in awhile, but when I have sex I will always look for the soul moving type. MattB "I think you still have your virginity...." First let me just say, in response to this, that I think you're under-estimating the power of rape to a woman. Even if she doesn't remember the incident too well, it's still a major thing. A woman's virginity is a physical thing. When a guy has sex, his body is still the same. When a woman has sex, her body is physically changed. That's cool if she still feels like a virgin. Her emotional virginity is very important. But don't take it upon yourself to down-play the incident. -Mel(Other) your right mel. I don't know the half of it. I guess I was just trying to be on the bright side of things, but not everything is bright. so I must say that I'm sorry for my shitty advice/coment. I don't know what it's like to have something like that done, and never will in this life. thanks for saying what you did mel. it made me look at things in a different light.... MattB sorry for changing the light on this page. i really appreciate the advice and concerns of all of you. i'm working things out, and i'm extremely lucky to have the guy i'm "sexual" with be compassionate and understanding... please go on with your opinions on virginity in general. it was extremely interesting until i fucked it up... unsigned NBTSWikiWiki | Recent Changes Edited 19 times, last edited on February 18, 2002 by risingdawn@nbtsc.org. © 2000 NBTSC Webmasters |
thomas who yes is virgin
